This New Year’s Eve is different for me.
I generally go into the New Year with not much fanfare on the actual night, but a loose wish and hope that ‘Next year will be better/I will be wealthier/I will be happier’. I do a little prayer or make a little wish and then go about my business, my year and hope that those things ‘will just happen’ somehow. Isn’t that how it works??
No. Um, did you know that there is no New Year Santa equivalent who will magically grant me my wishes? Who will trim my thighs, boost my bank balance and make me magically ‘happy’ without me having to do anything? It seems I didn’t, for all these years.
So what has changed, what made me realise this disappointing fact? Well, just a major health crisis followed by traumatic personal experiences followed by my husband having brain surgery followed by a TOTAL PERSONALITY CHANGE. A good one, in a happy way. You know, like those spiritual people write about in their books about being reborn and seeing the light and finding who they truly are? I’m not one of those spiritual people. I’m actually quite the cynic, a pragmatic person and I don’t like rainbows. But now, after the aforementioned events I am kinda one of those people and I am going to say this: the other day I read a quote (but I can’t remember where or who said it or who quoted it-sorry!) but it said something like the following. The difference between change and transformation is that when you change, you can change back, but when you transform you can never go back. (*Disclaimer: If this is your amazing quote please let me know and I will credit you. Right here______).
And that explains the ‘why’. Why this New Year’s eve is different for me. Instead of blindly ‘wishing for 2015 to be better’ I am actively doing things to make it better. Not by saying I am going on a diet, not by saying I will exercise everyday and then won’t, but looking at myself, who I am and where I want to be this year. There are a few things that I have done to help me in this task:
- Learn to meditate. I have not started to regularly meditate and I have not made a resolution to ‘start meditating this year’ or anything. I have simply downloaded some meditation tracks by the lovely Melissa Ambrosini and it is my goal to open myself up to meditation and see if it works for me. It might not, so I am not going to make a silly resolution that I’ll do it all year.
- Make peace with 2014. Yeah…. that one. The truth is, I am not really there yet. Not at all. But some things have helped me to realise that this is actually really important. That many people look ahead to the new year with starry eyes, pushing the previous year behind them without making peace with it. Without acknowledging and accepting the negative things that happened in it and going through a process of closure. So that they can move on. Really, I am just happy that I have identified that I need to do this, and have started the process.
- Plan my 2015. If you had told me in the past that I needed to do this or that people actually did this I would have thought it funny! But I did a transformative thing. I bought a book. It is called Create Your Shining Year and it is not only going to change my year but my life I think! If you have not heard of this book check it out. Apart from the rainbows it is pretty bloody awesome. (*No, I am not an affiliate. Yet. I really want to be).
So yeah, that’s it. And sorry that I didn’t talk about Grain. Or No Grain. I’m aware that I’m actually the ‘Grain-free Lady’ and not the ‘spiritual advice lady’, but to add to my other wisdom I’ll end with this:
You can’t separate physical health from mental health from spiritual health. It took me a long time to work that one out too.
What are your New Year’s
Resolutions Planned, active personal goals for 2015?
HAPPY New Year!